Friday, March 28, 2014

Voice Project: Installment 2


Rocky’s Corner
Coal Mine and Pierce
Littleton, CO
 
If customer service is dying, Rocky’s Corner is the defibrillator for its revival.
 
At least it seems as if there is enough positive energy in the place.
 
Snuggled tightly against the back of a liquor store on the corner of Coal Mine and Pierce, Rocky, the institution’s owner and operator, greets his customers with unconditional warmth that keeps you coming back. He'll even give your dog a treat--then ask if he can give another.

But this is not an advertisement for his coffee or breakfast burritos, which come wrapped elegantly in foil and topped with a bright orange label—a gift for his customers on their way to work. This is, rather, a testament to a belief that good people exist.
 
The American spirit is rooted in the rags-to-riches archetype. Stories of good people wading through the muck of life and coming out clean on the other side—that’s what we live for. That is Rocky, who coincidentally lives for everybody else.
 
Born into a family of five—all raised by his mother after his father passed away when he was 5—Rocky carries the toughness of a kid raised on the streets, of a kid raised to work hard and “never lie, steal, or cheat.” From an early age, he was taught to cook, clean, and most importantly, be kind.
 
"I got to a point where, I’m walking down the streets, kids are getting shot in my back yard, and I have to convince a guy pointing a gun in my face that I can be his friend,” Rocky said. “I’ve had a gun pointed to my face 15 times, not kidding. What I know, though, is that people are people. They like when you’re real with them.”
 
And there began his life philosophy of “being real” with everyone he met.
 
“Why not?” he asks. “Why not wake up every day and smile? Why not be kind to people, enjoy life? If you don’t, you get darkness. The sun doesn’t rise all the way. You need to surround yourself with people who love you, and treat people with respect.”
 
Rocky toted his kindness to his job with United Airlines—where he worked for 27 years and met celebrities, visited the world’s greatest cities, and experienced all the world’s luxuries.
 
Rags to riches, right?
 
But Rocky doesn’t care about all that.
 
“I don’t care who you are. I don’t care if you’re rich or poor. I don’t care where you come from. All I care about is that we’re people. I care about you and me having a conversation,” he says.
 
While working at the airline he also ran a remodeling company. His life was centered on serving people. Then, two back surgeries and United Airlines layoffs pushed him into an early retirement.
 
“I couldn’t just stop,” Rocky explains. “If you stop interacting with people, if you stop being active, you age. This opportunity (the Burrito and Coffee stand) came about, and I couldn’t pass it up.”
 
Just as he was about to elaborate, a car pulled up to his window.
 
“Hey darling! What’s going on this morning?”
 
The customer returns his excitement.
 
“Hey Rock! I just need a Veggie Burrito. You have any left?”
 
“Ohh if you’re lucky” he says with a smile. He does a nifty spin move to the back of his shop and picks a burrito from the stack—perfectly wrapped, labeled with a neon sticker that reads “Veggie.”
 
“Ohh look who’s lucky today!”
 
She hands him her money. He gives her the burrito, which she immediately unwraps. A gift to enjoy on the way to work.
 
As our conversation continued, Rocky handed me a stool through the window and invited me to sit down. He would stop frequently to wave to cars at the stoplight in front of the store or to serve customers, and he handled the morning chaos with undeviating joy. Within two hours, Rocky sold over 100 burritos, and crossed paths with over 100 friends.
 
“It’s like this, man,” he continues, his arms on the countertop like a wise bartender of yore. “I came from nothing, and I’ve lived the life of a 100 year old man. I have a beautiful wife, beautiful kids, 10 grandchildren, one great grandchild; I’ve fished and hiked this beautiful place. I’ve met so many wonderful people. I told my son, If God takes me today, tell everyone I was ready. Man, I’ve done everything I could’ve ever wanted. So why not keep going? Why not help people?”
 
He shows me a picture of his body building days, along with a few of him holding a 45 pound fish with his brother.
 
“I’m so blessed. So fortunate. I’m not religious, but I do believe in God. I asked Him for one thing in this life—to be a father, to be a father and live long enough so my kids know me. He gave me that. I didn’t have that, and I was able to do that for my kids. And man, my kids are beautiful. All this—” he points to the mountains and pictures—“all this is extra. I love waking up and interacting with these people.”
 
This man, who opened up his life to me after I bought a Chorizo burrito and Carmel Macchiato—which were both fantastic, by the way—is proof that spreading kindness is effective.
 
Any man in America can open a business, but it takes a special person to run it the way Rocky does—with a smile on his face and a genuine desire to build relationships with his customers.
 
Around 11 a.m., Rocky runs out of burritos, and will just sell coffee until 1. I shake my head and marvel at this man who has mastered the craft of customer service (and breakfast culinary).
 
“I’m just being me man! I’m just being me!” Rocky says.
 
Well, Rock, you have a gift. And this one doesn’t come wrapped in foil, nor will it ever run out.

Thursday, March 27, 2014

Voice Project: giving those with a voice a place to speak


#VoiceProject (follow on Instagram)
 
Over the past few years I’ve tried to extend the boundaries of my voice as a writer. I’ve tried writing on controversial topics or looking for inspiration in romantic places, but my experience has taught me a few valuable lessons:

 

1.       Most people do not care about what you have to say unless they can directly connect with it. Unless it is real and at the same time reveals an understanding of humanity.

2.       You will not truly understand yourself until you make it a point to understand others first.

3.       The people who have the most to say often say the least, usually because they aren't given a chance or they are worried nobody will listen.

 
Most of what we hear today, be it music or broadcasts on various media outlets, is selfish. People talk about themselves. A lot. Musicians talk about their struggle or how hard they work. People advocate for a love of critics and a disregard for public opinion. What they fail to realize, however, is that without other people, we would have no purpose. They also fail to realize that, pardon my sincerity, nobody cares.
 
Over my spring break (from Denver to Chicago and back), I wanted to start a project that would give a voice to those who don’t typically get to speak. It’s easy for me, a high school English teacher raised in a middle-class, predominantly white area, to stand up and speak for myself.
 
What I should be doing, however, is standing up and speaking for those who can’t.
 
Over the next month, I hope to compile a list of great people I meet and give you a glimpse into their lives. Good people still exist, but people won’t believe it (like they won’t believe most things) without cold, hard proof. I intend to provide that proof, and I invite you to join.
 
Please follow me on this journey (I have named Voice Project), not for me, but for the people I meet. I would love for you to share your own, too. Share stories/poetry/art of anyone you think deserves to be heard (or seen), and simply tag it with the hash tag #VoiceProject.
 
Anyway, enough of me. Let the sharing begin:
 
Name: Bernard Lee
Denver, CO
March 27, 2014
 
Bernard just arrived to Denver from Chicago two weeks ago, not long after his release from prison. “I needed change,” he said. “I kept getting into the same old [stuff]. I made horrible decisions.”
 
Bernard’s rough life began while he was growing up in a group home in Chicago. “[The people in charge] took advantage of me because I was smart, and everyone else in the house, except a few people, were mentally insane. Literally insane,” Bernard said. “How am I supposed to maximize who I am in that environment?” Bernard said the only reason he made it out was because he “did everything they asked, no questions. Even if it meant selling drugs. Shit, they would smoke and drink with me. I was just a kid. And they’re supposed to be helping me?”
 
At 19, Bernard was locked up for selling drugs. He did five more stints over the next 12 years. Now, he’s 31 and trying to find his way in Denver.
 
“I was meant to help people. My mother was a Jehova’s witness. Helping people is in my blood.”

With a passion to escape the Midwest and all that it brought him, Bernard walks the streets of Denver searching for shelters that will provide him with opportunities to help.

I asked him if he ever wrote about it. He smiled, and over a Gyro from a cart on the sidewalk, Bernard shared his poem “I’m Tired” with me. When he spoke, his brown eyes opened wider than I’m sure they had in a long time. Each line conjured some trial he endured back East, and his lips puckered to his teeth. During the 40 seconds it took for him to share his poem (completely from memory), Bernard Lee was as honest as he’s ever been. He wanted to write it down (so I wouldn’t take credit for it) and have me record it, which I did. Friend me on Facebook (Jacob William) to see it.

“I just have so much pain,” he says. “I just need to change the environment around me. Your environment can run your life. My environment made me this way. That’s why I’m in Denver. To change. To make something of myself.”
 
Bernard’s poem is below.
 
“I’m Tired”
by: Bernard Lee

 
I’m tired of this pain,
I catch enough just to go insane,
But instead of giving a frown
I smile the smile of a crazed clown.
 
Some people say I’m as soft as a cloud,
Some people say I’m the golden child
Just a little more buck wild.
 
It’s time for a change.
 
It’s time to stop thinking with my d***
and using my brain
But when I use my brain, all I see
Is these dirty hoes tryin’ to play me.
 
What I was taught—there’s nothing stronger than game,
And just as damage does glass
I know words can bring pain,
You do wrong once, it’ll come back twice.
 
Now it’s my turn to roll the dice.